Peeps and Peers (Friends)

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Peeps and Peers (Friends)

Post by Administrator » Tue May 13, 2008 9:47 pm


Sometimes, you may find that you’re concerned about a friend who may be gambling. You may have even tried to talk to your friend and were either rejected or ignored. Do not become discouraged.

People with gambling problems very often are not receptive to hearing that their behaviors or actions may be of concern or present difficulties for others. However, they still need to hear it. What’s important is how you communicate your thoughts or feelings so you don’t alienate your friend when you’re really only trying to help. Remember, friends depend on friends to tell them the truth, so be sure to do your part.

Here are some guidelines to help you approach a friend.
• Become educated about the subject.
• Make a plan to talk to your friend when you are feeling calm.
• Be sure you are in a safe space for a serious dialogue.
• Don’t avoid the topic, be direct.
• Express concerns honestly and share observations.
• Share how you feel and tell how the gambling is impacting you.
• Avoid passing judgment and verbal attacks.
• Set limits as to what you are willing and not willing to do.
• Offer support.
• Encourage activities that are not gambling related.
• Advise the gambler that s/he does not need to handle this alone.

Finally, it is important to keep in mind that the 24-hour confidential HelpLine is as much for friends and family members as it is for the gambler.

24-hour Confidential HelpLine