Joined: 13 May 2008
|Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:26 pm Post subject: Peeps and Peers (Friends)
Sometimes, you may find that you’re concerned about a friend who may be gambling. You may have even tried to talk to your friend and were ignored. People with gambling problems very often are not open to hearing that their actions may be of concern to others. However, they still need to hear it. What’s important is how you communicate your thoughts or feelings. Remember, friends depend on friends to tell them the truth, so be sure to do your part.
Here are some guidelines to help you approach a friend.
• Read about the subject.
• Make a plan to talk to your friend when you are feeling calm.
• Be sure you are in a safe space for a serious dialogue.
• Don’t avoid the topic, be direct.
• Express concerns honestly and share observations.
• Share how you feel and tell how the gambling is impacting you.
• Avoid passing judgment and verbal attacks.
• Set limits as to what you are willing and not willing to do.
• Offer support.
• Encourage activities that are not gambling related.
• Tell the gambler that s/he does not need to handle this alone.
Finally, it is important to keep in mind that the 24-hour confidential HelpLine is as much for friends and family members as it is for the gambler.
24-hour Confidential HelpLine